- Believing that someone else is the problem.
- Putting yourself ahead of your company.
The best way to get ahead is to put the needs of your company first, and for the simple reason that doing your job well and going above and beyond the call of duty will come back to you eventually. That’s just the way it works. Nobody’s going to go out on a limb and shower you with raises and promotions until you prove yourself capable, which means getting results … for the company.
- Thinking you know better instead of listening and learning.
Those who act as if they know it all and have overinflated opinions of themselves are usually overcompensating for deep feelings of inferiority and insecurity. And everyone knows it but them. So, when you act that way instead of listening and learning, it’s like holding up a giant sign that says, “I act big but I really feel small.”
- Feeling entitled to something.
You’re not entitled to anything except to to work your tail off and maybe someday make something of yourself.
- There’s some magic secret to getting ahead.
Becoming successful in the real world requires every bit of whatever brains God gave you, the wisdom you learned along the way, and pretty much all your energy and focus. By definition, every brain cycle and moment you spend thinking there’s a better way – a magic way – works against you by detracting from what it really takes to succeed: brains, hard work, and learning from experience.
Self-limiting or self-destructive behavior is a self-perpetuating infinite loop. Here’s how it works:
- Things don’t go your way, so you get angry and blame others.
- But, deep down, on some level, you know it’s your own fault.
- So you feel guilty and ashamed and beat yourself up.
- That lowers your self-confidence and increases your self-doubt.
- Your work performance suffers as a result.
Round and round it goes, and there you have it: self-perpetuating career self-sabotage.
The first step to solving any problem is recognizing there is one, but changing behavior you’ve spent a lifetime developing takes a lot of work.
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