My two-cents worth of input on some posts concerning women techies in libraries:
Balancing work and home obligations on the Library Web Chic blog
(yes, you can ask for change…it’s probably not even worth the two-cents…)

When I started reading this thread of related posts, I thought I had something to contribute..but when it comes right down to it, I’m just another ’statistic’ about women in tech and specifically women in tech at libraries. Working in a smaller public library (serving 12,500) in a very remote and rural setting, I used to feel that being one of few women in the field was actually a great perk. I often had to deal with men who felt above me, but after a few minutes of conversation, I always managed to gain their respect, and therefore enjoyed a sort of celebrity in and around my community. Now, I find myself very alone with much more responsibility…from being a circulation librarian to the network administrator, to being both the network and system administrator, and now as director, I have all of the financial and management burden, and still must play the role of system/network administrator. The celebrity status now is unwelcome, because I find I do not have enough time or resources to complete any of my duties to MY satisfaction (though everyone else seems happy with it). 60 to 80 hour work weeks are growing old, and I cannot think of a single woman to emulate or learn better work habits from. Add to this the little fact that I’m married with 6 daughters (4 of them teenagers), and I often find myself wondering how much longer I can really do this. Like Joy, I’m always on call, and it becomes a burden even if the phone doesn’t ring…just knowing that you’re never fully ‘away’ from work. How many of us are being forced into having to choose between family and work because there isn’t anyone that understands one simple fact:
no matter how much has changed, most women still have ‘typical’ domestic duties….
I will have to choose my family over my library. And what a sad day that will be… for everyone.

More links on this topic from other bloggers:
Library Web Chic: On being the Library Web Chic; The Gender Issue Again
Free Range Librarian: 2.0: Where are the women?
Caveat Lector: Grunch and the Library Coder
Liminal Librarian: What is and what should never should be